«How do I tell the cat that I threw the guy?»: the girl asks to give her advice before a difficult «conversation» with your pet

How to tell the cat that you broke up with a partner, and she will never be able to cuddle?

When Abby Govindan (22) from Houston, Texas threw the guy, one of the biggest causes for concern was how to tell the cat that the guy they both loved, is gone forever.

The girl asked for advice from Twitter users: «How to explain to the cat that loved my boyfriend more than anything that he never come back?»

Given 250 thousand likes and almost 13 thousand retweets we can safely say that this post has resonated in the hearts of the users of social networks. Abby told the BBC that he was shocked at how many people answered her, and many supported it.

How do I explain to my cat who loved my boyfriend more than anything in the world, that he is never coming over ever again

— Abby Govindan (@abbygov) January 12, 2020

Abby said, «actually, I love dogs, but my cat anjali lives with me more than a year. I got her from a shelter and she gives me emotional support. But my ex-partner, whom I met 7 months, taught me how to «speak cat». They understood each other, and she loved it».

Abby says anjali (12 years) was running out the ears and raced to the door whenever heard, as a former partner of the girl locked the car on the way home.

«I would like to be able to explain to her what was going on. I think she knows that something has changed because when I got home after the breakup, she was much nicer to me than usual.»

The girl said that when she picked up the cat himself, that suffered the separation and Wake her in the night, to make sure it is in place. So now she is very worried how the separation will affect them both. «I see she’s trying to understand what is happening. When I cry, she comes to see me. Usually she behaves like a diva, but now she is very gentle.»

newsflash Anjali is still a beautiful, beautiful dumbass pic.twitter.com/l3FpZLZTLk

— Abby Govindan (@abbygov) September 1, 2018

Elaine Henley of the Association of Pet Behaviour Counsellors told how it is important to understand that animals copy the behavior and emotional reactions of the couple.

«If the house is a lot of stress, for example, people fighting or upset, the animals will understand your emotions, but will not be able to understand their cause. It’s like how little children do not understand what happens when parents split up. They want to know what was so upsetting mom and dad.»

This can lead to unexpected reactions – aggression, increased appetite, anxiety, restlessness.

Henley said she is not surprised that the cat Abby became more attentive: «Pupils see the nuances of your body language and feel your pheromones. We may never love the former, but for the animal the man seemed kind and safe, so they feel the loss. They need to be convinced that you are not going to disappear, and if they speak softly, this will help.»

As for Abby, she said that will give yourself and anjali time to mourn. The question how to tell the cat that happens, she says, «My friend sent me a message saying that I need to tell her «very, very soft»».

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